What's your attachment style?

While You Wait For Your Results

After you’ve submitted your quiz and you’re waiting for those results to pop up in your inbox, check out these pages to learn more about the different ways people connect and how to develop the healthiest attachments.

Interpreting Your Attachment Style Results

Based on your quiz results, you may primarily identify as having a secure, anxious, avoidant, or ambivalent attachment style. Depending on who you’re with, you may attach using different styles. An insecure attachment style isn’t a flaw. It’s an adaptation that once protected you, and knowing your go-to style is the first step toward attaching to others in a healthier, more secure way.

What Your Attachment Style Means
Your Style	What It Means	What PIVOT Can Help You Do
Secure	You are confident and comfortable in your relationships. You trust yourself. You communicate openly. You have appropriate boundaries. You maintain a healthy balance of independence and closeness. Love feels safe and fulfilling!	Connect with other attachment styles Set healthy boundaries Remain healthy when you’re surrounded by challenging people
Anxious	You're often worried about your relationships. You may crave constant reassurance. You might fear abandonment. You may overthink your partner's actions (leading to heightened emotional intensity). The constant worry can leave you and the relationship exhausted.	Learn to trust yourself Learn to think before you react Calm your nervous system Set healthy boundaries Not ruminate and obsess so much Not depend on others to create your happiness Be alone and feel safe
Avoidant	You value independence. You often keep your emotional distance in relationships. You might struggle with intimacy. You prefer to stay self-sufficient and avoid vulnerability. You may keep a protective barrier around your heart. You may keep others at arm's length to maintain your sense of control and freedom.	Set healthy boundaries Engage and not quiet your voice Stay in the conversation and not run Not engage in self-destructive behavior from feeling engulfed Be connected to others and feel safe
Ambivalent	You are often caught in an emotional tug-of-war. This is sometimes called an anxious-avoidant style. You crave closeness but also fear rejection, leading to intense, fluctuating feelings. Relationships can feel like a rollercoaster, with high highs and low lows. You may be highly sensitive to your partner's actions. You seek reassurance but sometimes push them away (creating a dynamic of uncertainty and mixed signals).	Get out of the “Come here - Go away” pattern Get clarity from confusion Not rely on other people to have the answers for you Set healthy boundaries Take action when it matters Not worry so much about what other people think

About This Quiz

This quiz was developed by Lori Jean Glass, founder of the PIVOT Process and author of #HealthyAdult, from the relational patterns PIVOT coaches have worked with since 2013. It presents 60 yes or no statements, 15 for each attachment style, and your responses build a picture of where you lean across all four. The quiz and the interpretation content on this page have been clinically reviewed by three licensed clinical social workers: Jennifer Plisko, Kiah Enriquez, and Cindy Finch.

The quiz is a self-reflection tool, not a clinical assessment or a diagnosis. If your results bring up more than you expected, a PIVOT coach can help you make sense of them.

Attachment Style Quiz FAQ

Is the attachment style quiz free?

Yes. The quiz is free, takes about 5 minutes, and there is no account to create. Your results are emailed to you with your personal chart.

How does the attachment style quiz work?

You respond yes or no to 60 short statements, 15 for each of the four attachment styles. Your responses build a score for each style, and the balance of those scores shows where you lean. Your results arrive by email with a chart of all four scores.

What are the four attachment styles?

This quiz measures secure, anxious, avoidant, and ambivalent attachment. Ambivalent is sometimes called an anxious-avoidant style, and some frameworks call it fearful-avoidant or disorganized attachment. It is a push-and-pull pattern of craving closeness while also fearing it. Most of us have a predominant style as our go-to and still attach in other ways with certain people.

Can my attachment style change?

Yes. Attachment styles aren't set in stone. They form early in life, and with awareness and practice you can learn to attach in healthier, more secure ways. That work is the heart of PIVOT's coaching and retreats.

Is this quiz a clinical assessment?

No. The quiz is a self-reflection tool built from PIVOT's coaching work, and the quiz and the content on this page have been clinically reviewed by three licensed clinical social workers. It is not a diagnosis. If you want to go deeper than a score, you can book a free discovery call with PIVOT.

Transform Your Relationships With PIVOT

Worried about the results of your attachment style quiz? Attachment styles aren't set in stone. You can change how you approach relationships with the help of dedicated relationship coaches.